Monthly Archives: June 2010

Penis Size

Almost every man in our culture is concerned about the size of his penis. I remember the scene vividly even though it was over 30 years ago. It way my first high school PE class. This was back in a time when we were FORCED to change before class and shower afterward. I remember PE […]

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Male Genital Shame

Most writing on genital shame is focused on women. Yet, I find genital shame in many men too. Genital shame takes many different forms but I’ve noticed some similarities. First of all many men have a distanced relationship with our genitals. We often treat our penis as separate from the rest of our body. Some […]

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Letting Go

I’m writing this after a harrowing experience that’s also reminded me about an important lesson in letting go. I’m in Illinois for my brother’s wedding. Getting here was an ordeal. My partner and I arrived early at the airport to check in for a flight. The terminal was in absolute chaos. There were people standing […]

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Masculine Stereotypes

There’s a trend in advertising that’s really bothering me lately. The theme is the dumb, incompetent man rescued by the smart woman. I’ve noticed this theme in many advertisements lately. This got me thinking about all the stereotypes we have about ourselves and how we’re supposed to behave as men. Of course, there are the […]

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Listening To Your Body

I see a common theme in many men that shows up as a gap between what our head wants and what our body wants. Usually this comes up around sexual activity – our head wants to be strongly sexual yet our body isn’t quite there. More often than not, we drag our body along and […]

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What is Masculinity?

I’ve really been thinking a lot lately about masculinity. At the same time, I can’t define it. I’m reminded by the 1964 statement from Supreme Court Justice Potter Stewart when he tried to explain what is obscene, by saying, “I shall not today attempt further to define the kinds of material I understand to be […]

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