What is erotic trance? Erotic trance is a state induced by erotic activity in which we learn to completely let go, surrender to the experience and simply be present to the experience. The mental noise goes away and all we’re aware of is the sensations in the body. I think it’s close to completely letting go during meditation. Your mind is completely free. There’s no background noise – no mindless chatter about all the things in life that we all have to do. The mind goes completely quiet and the body takes over. Further, the mind lets go of the noise around our erotic lives. We’re not concerned with how we look or what the other person thinks of us. We aren’t concerned about making too much or not enough noise. We’re completely taken over by erotic sensations.
Drugs aren’t needed to access this trance. In many ways it’s like the moment of orgasm. It’s pretty hard to be occupied with lots of thoughts as you’re cumming! The primary difference is that erotic trance lasts much longer than most orgasms.
How can I get there?
The key to erotic trance is a conscious focus on the breath. Most men, when experiencing increased erotic energy, tend to hold the breath and tense the muscles. These actions keep the erotic energy from circulating throughout the body. This first exercise is intended to help you focus on your breath and also to slow down the ‘normal’ masturbation experience.
Plan on a time when you can be alone and undisturbed. You may want to turn your telephone off. Find a comfortable place where you can relax. Throughout these exercises I strongly recommend that you have a mirror close by where you can observe your body. This is especially important for men who are visually oriented – these men use their visual sense more than other senses.
Most men masturbate for under 15 minutes before ejaculation. For this exercise you’ll be breathing for 15 minutes. You may want to have a clock visible.
Position the mirror where you can see your face and most of your body. Create an atmosphere that is comforting for you. This may include candles, music, items of personal significance, or erotic toys. Use whatever works for you. I strongly recommend that you do not use porn. Porn can be a wonderful thing, but for this tutorial I invite you to put it away.
Begin the exercise by closing your eyes and checking in with your body. Note any areas that are tight or relaxed. Try not to judge you feelings – just note them. Scan your body from the top of your head to the tips of your toes.
As you’re doing this check-in open your mouth and take nice deep slow breaths. Make some noise with your breath. Keep the effort only on the inhale. Let the exhale fall; there’s no need to push the exhale out.
As you’re breathing be aware of your cock and balls. There’s no need to touch them yet – just be aware that they exist. Feel your cock and balls hang. Be aware of the muscles in your pelvis. See if you can relax these muscles on the inhale. This is easier if you breathe into your belly rather than your chest.
Enjoy and savor!