Practice Toward Trance

Erotic trance is that place where our raw, primal energies come to the forefront. In this trance, the thoughts of the mind disappear into the background and the body intuitively takes over. Rather than trancing out the focus here is on trancing into your body. Erotic trance is also the place where eros and spirit meet.

Many men find erotic trance elusive. These exercises are intended to help you explore accessing erotic trance on your own. While erotic trance can be accessed with a partner, many men find that solo practice is the easiest way to begin the journey.

Erotic trance is the place to begin to explore becomming multi orgasmic. Orgasm and ejaculation are different responses and we can learn to separate the two. A key to becoming multi orgasmic is to learn the ability to have full body orgasms. Usually these full body orgasms aren't accompanied by ejaculation - it's more of an energetic experience that ignites the body to even greater levels of pleasure. We'll explore multiple orgasms in these exercises.

There's a lot of information here. Please take it slow and practice each step. There's no need to rush through this. In fact, if you rush through this I can assure you that it won't work. Take your time and savor.

Before We Begin

Many of us get caught up in reaching for and achieving goals. Goals can be helpful for us in many areas; however, they can also distract us from enjoyment of the journey. A key toward erotic trance is to let go of goals.

Develop a practice of being present. Many times we can spend so much time focusing on the goal that we can forget the pleasure in the journey. Erotic trance is all about the journey. Stay in the present moment and when you notice your thoughts stray focus your energy on your breath.

The focus of these exercises is to spend time enjoying and savoring! Don't get hung up on erections. Erections come and go - it's a natural cycle. Don't focus on maintaining your erection; rather, focus on the pleasure and note the distinction in feelings between pleasure with an erection and without. Be present to the feelings in your body.

Kegel Exercises

Kegel exercises are designed to strengthen the pubococcygeus muscle. This muscle (also called the PC muscle) forms a sling around your pelvic floor and runs from your tailbone to your pelvic bone. Kegel exercises are great for almost any man and can be especially good for men who are experiencing incontinence or who have concerns with ejaculatory control. They can also enhance the way that orgasms feel.

The best way to find this muscle is to pretend you're in the middle of urinating and try to stop the flow of urine. The muscle you use to stop the flow of urine is your PC muscle.

The best way to begin is to start slow. Start by squeezing your PC muscles as hard as you can then hold. This is doing a kegel exercise. Start by squeezing and holding for 3 to 5 seconds, then release and relax for a few seconds. As you release, notice how the muscle feels. You may find that this exercise is hard to do. Don't worry. Just like any other muscle in the body the muscle must be exercised. With practice it will become easier.

These exercises are more efficient when you develop a routine and repeat many of them over a set. Start by trying a set of 5 squeeze and holds, take a short break of a minute or so, then do another set. After you feel comfortable, increase the number in each set and increase the amount of time your squeeze and hold the muscle.

Do kegels while masturbating or having partnered sex. You can find enhanced pleasure by incorporating kegel exercises in your sexual activity. Do them when you’re getting warmed up. Try them when your soft as well as hard. You can even do them while ejaculating. You may notice that kegels improve your sexual response and the experience of orgasm. For some men, kegels can be a useful to hold off from the edge of ejaculation.

You can also do kegels at almost any time. You can do them in public - no one will notice! Try doing them when standing in line or stopped at a traffic light.

Breath

Breath is the foundation to waking and building erotic charge in the body. Conscious breath is important. Deep breathing allows your erotic energy to circulate throughout your body - including all of you in the erotic trance - not just your penis. Most men hold their breath when becoming aroused. I suggest that you breathe deeply and purposefully when generating erotic energy. The oxygen will charge your body and enhance your experience.

The breath practice is intended to help you focus on your breath and also to slow down the ‘normal’ masturbation experience. Most men masturbate for under 15 minutes before ejaculation. For this exercise you’ll be just breathing for 15 minutes. You may want to have a clock visible.

Find some time when you can be alone and undisturbed. You may want to turn your telephone off. Find a comfortable place where you can relax. Begin the exercise by closing your eyes and checking in with your body. Note any areas that are tight or relaxed. Try not to judge you feelings – just note them. Scan your body from the top of your head to the tips of your toes.

As you’re doing this check in open your mouth and take nice deep slow breaths. Make some noise with your breath. Keep the effort only on the inhale. Let the exhale fall; there’s no need to push the exhale out.

As you’re breathing be aware of your cock and balls. There’s no need to touch them yet – just be aware that they exist. Feel your cock and balls hang. Be aware of the muscles in your pelvis. See if you can relax these muscles on the inhale. This is easier if you breathe into your belly rather than your chest. You may want to include some kegels while breathing.

You may feel some tingling in your legs and arms. This is normal and due to increased oxygen circulating through your body. Just note the sensations and keep breathing.

Deliberate Touch

Infants are naturally curious about their bodies. Baby boys touch themselves everywhere they can. As infants we learn that touch to our genitals is pleasurable. However, this natural exploration is usually discouraged. We quickly learn that genital touch is something to be ashamed of. As we grow older most of us are torn between the pleasurable feelings of self touch and the guilt imposed by our culture.

This causes us to develop guilt and shame around self touch. We enjoy touching ourselves because it feels good. However, others clearly disapprove of such touch. This causes continual mental conflict over self touch. As a result many men develop what has been called the ‘genital hole’ We become conditioned to ignore the feelings and sensations in our genitals. Some of us become numb.

For many of us when we begin self touch our attention focuses entirely to our genitals. We ignore the rest of our body. It’s as if we live in two worlds: no genitals and only genitals. I believe that it’s important to engage the entire body when cultivating erotic trance. There are a lot of other places on our body that can generate erotic energy. I encourage you to include your legs, arms, belly, nipples and other parts of your body.

Here's an exercise to try on your own to explore this area. I recommend having a mirror close by where you can observe your body. This is especially important for men who are visually oriented – these men use their visual sense more than other senses. Position the mirror where you can see your face and most of your body.

I strongly recommend that you do not use porn. Porn can be a wonderful spark that gets us going, but it can also distract us from fully being in our body. I invite you to put it away for now.

Begin the exercise by closing your eyes and checking in with your body. Note any areas that are tight or relaxed. Try not to judge you feelings – just note them. Scan your body from the top of your head to the tips of your toes.

Create an intention to cultivate erotic energy from your entire body. Begin with the top of your head. Include your face and ears. Slowly caress your arms. Feel the sensation of your touch on the hairs of your skin. Caress your hands. Move to your chest. Play with your nipples. Include your belly in with your touch. Most of us ignore our bellies –some of us are ashamed of this part of out body. Make love to your belly.

Include erotic touch of your cock and balls. Slow deliberate touch. Although you don’t need an erection, enjoy it if you have an erection. Tickle your balls and your perineum (that spot between your balls and your anus.) Caress the tender places on the inside of your legs. Include your feet and toes.

Erotically wake up your entire body. Yes, your cock and balls can generate lots of erotic energy. But so can the rest of your body. Enjoy the slow increase of erotic energy.

Peaking

Most of us learned to masturbate when we were much younger. At this time in our lives we learned that we needed to hide our pleasure from others – like parents or siblings. This required us to be very efficient about masturbation. We learned to be quick and quiet. For some of us this habit carried into adulthood. We continued to be quick and quiet to hide our masturbation from roommates, partners or spouses. This results in a lifetime of quick hidden pleasure.

Most men are familiar with the standard sexual response model of excitement, plateau and orgasm. There is an erotic zone in the later part of the plateau phase but before the point of ejaculatory inevitability where the erotic energy is at a peak and can be sustained. Get to know your erotic zone. Staying as long as you can in this zone is a key to erotic trance. I've found that the first 15 to 20 minutes of genital stimulation are critical to getting into erotic trance. During these first few minutes your body is flooded with endorphins as you begin to stimulate your penis. The usual reaction to this rush of endorphins is to reach ejaculation. If you can get through these first few minutes without ejaculating you'll find that getting into erotic trance is much easier. You may find that you need a lot of practice with peaking. Don’t beat yourself up or give up if you aren't able to do this exercise right away. If you ejaculate before you intend, learn how to read your body and the signs of ejaculatory inevitability.

Set a space similar to the previous exercises. Plan on a time when you can be alone and undisturbed. Begin to masturbate but go slow. Savor and enjoy the pleasure. This isn't about cumming - it's about savoring. While you build the pleasure, the glands and vesicles start filling. See if you can notice these subtle sensations.

The key to building pleasure is to vary the pace and the strokes. Most of us are used to doing the 'piston' stroke – the usual up down stroke with a fist. I recommend that you vary the pace. Try spending time on the head of your cock then alternating with strokes up and down the full shaft. Try using a 'backhand' stroke – reversing your hand as you stroke. Most of us have a dominant hand that we use – you may want to use the other hand. Include some light pulling and tugging of your balls. Include your perineum. Massage the head of your cock like a citrus juicer. Try twisting your stroke as you move up and down the shaft. Use both hands at the same time. Try up only strokes with both hands. The possibilities are endless!

For most men if we can last 15 to 20 minutes and not ejaculate it’s much easier to continue on. So, build the pleasure for the first 15 to 20 minutes with the intention to not ejaculate. You may want to have a clock visible so you can see how long you’ve been masturbating. Once you've been pleasuring for 15 to 20 minutes this becomes easier.

The focus for peaking is to learn slowing down finding your point of ejaculatory inevitability or the point of no return. This is the place where you know you are about to ejaculate and nothing you can do will stop it. See how close you can come to this point. Learn to recognize the signs that you are very close. These signs can be very subtle, and it's important to be able to recognize this point to learn how to be multi orgasmic. Be prepared for this to take some practice. It's pretty easy to stop early (and miss experiencing the early signs) or go just a stroke or two too long (and accidentally cum.) You'll probably shoot too soon on occasion. Don't worry about it; try again next time. Practice can be fun! If you're frustrated just the most important thing you can do is to slow down.

Riding the Edge

This is where you can experience multiple orgasms and learn to separate orgasm from ejaculation. Before beginning this practice be sure you know the subtle signs that you are so close to that point of no return. This technique requires patience and it can take a while to learn the timing and the rewards are incredible!

Riding the edge means getting close to that point of cumming and riding the edge without going over. The experience is like riding waves of pleasure. With experience, you can learn to ride wave after wave of orgasmic pleasure. Learning how to do this may take a while and be sure to be patient with yourself. Go slow and the pleasure waves will be incredible!

Begin pleasuring, slowly, until you reach that point of no return. Reach that place where with just one more stroke you will cum. If you can time it right, you may even have a dribble of cum. This dribble will feel great, and you will definitely feel like continuing on. When you reach the point of no return, back off for a bit. Breathe. Savor and enjoy. When you're ready begin stroking again.

After doing this a while you may find that your erection comes and goes. Don't worry about it; it's a natural reaction. Erections come and go. Don't focus on maintaining your erection; rather, focus on the pleasure and note the distinction in feelings between masturbating with an erection and without. Many man find that pleasuring when not all the way hard reduces the pressure to ejaculate. That place where your semi-hard can be the source of countless waves of pleasure.

Be present to the feelings in your body. Many men focus on something external - like porn. While masturbating I encourage you to turn off the computer or TV and focus on what's going on in your body. Note the feelings. Feel each nerve tingle with excitement.

The aim is for you to experience a series of orgasmic waves. Try riding the edge for some time. There will be a strong temptation to cum. A way to focus on riding the edge is to set a time to cum. Give yourself an hour or so of edging. One way to keep aware of the time as you're practicing is to have a digital timer handy. Set the timer for an hour or so and ride the edge until he timer goes off. Try to not look at the timer much. As the ejaculation time draws near, occasionally glance at the timer. When there's one minute left on the clock, try to stay right on the edge so you can cum right after the timer rings.

Intention Around Ejaculation

After a while riding the edge you may feel that you're ready to completely let go. Much has been written around ejaculation. There are some who believe that ejaculation is something that should be rationed or saved for particular occasions. Others say that ejaculation should happen often. Lately there have been some health studies that show a correlation between frequency of ejaculation and incidence of prostate cancer. The more often a man ejaculates the lower the incidence of prostate cancer.

The reality is that many men ejaculate out of habit. It’s something that we’ve conditioned our bodies to do every time we raise erotic energy. We've become used to a routine that includes ejaculation and a loss of energy afterwards.

I invite you to ejaculate with intention; not just because you’ve always done it. Choose to do it rather than do it out of habit.

Yes, there's a paradox here. A key part of erotic trance is to move the focus from ejaculation and toward enjoyment. At the same time, it's also important to give yourself permission to fully enjoy the experience of ejaculation and do it with abandon! So set an intention and choose if you would like to ejaculate. Better yet, check in with your body and see if you can tell what your body wants.

When you're ready let go and completely surrender to the experience. This is probably the best part, and many men completely miss this experience. After ejaculation you can experience a period of complete relaxation, bliss and mental clarity. Stay in the experience. Don't run off to do other things. Risist the temptation to reach for a tissue or towel. Keep breathing and stay in your body. Lay back and savor this magical moment! Enjoy your cum and savor the experience. There is a tremendous reward for staying and savoring!