Client Newsletter

April 2006

My New San Francisco Space is Ready for You

As many of you know, the last two months I didn't produce a newsletter. I had to focus on my move and one of the temporary casualties was the newsletter. Now that I'm in San Francisco and somewhat settled in, it's time to get the newsletter going again.

I'm really excited about my new space. The old space in San Francisco was very convenient, but crowded. The new space is a private, dedicated room in my new home. I'm happy to have a space dedicated to massage and bodywork.

The new space is just 3 blocks from the old place. I'm a short walk from either the Church St. MUNI station or 16th & Mission BART.

I also have to say that this move has been an opportunity for growth for me. Sure, I've moved before. But my earlier moves were either small or taken care of by my employer. I've never had to do a big move on my own. One of the biggest lessons I've learned since leaving corporate life is that on autopilot you have no real control of where you're going, but the ride is usually pretty smooth. When you turn the autopilot off you can go anywhere you want, but the ride may have a few more bumps. I'm happy that I turned the autopilot off!

Bodywork was a great way for me to deal with some of the bumps along the way. After getting several massages during this move, I'm move convinced than ever in the healing and restorative power of touch.

It was also very hard to say goodbye to many wonderful men in the Phoenix area. I'm honored with the trust you placed in me and wish you the best. Be sure to let me know if anyone in Phoenix gets up to San Francisco.

I invite you to make an appointment and experience my new location for yourself!

What is Masturbation Coaching?

One of the first questions I hear about masturbation coaching is "Why do I need a coach for masturbation? I learned how to do this many years ago and I'm quite good at it. What else is there to learn?"

This is precisely why masturbation coaching is so powerful. Most of us masturbate the same way we did when we were much younger. Masturbation coaching is about helping you achieve your dreams and goals around self-pleasuring.

A coach is someone who listens to you, he helps you get clarity on what you want then helps you achieve that. He is your advocate - someone you can openly and honestly talk with. He won't judge or criticize. He may challenge and push you. But most of all he is your supporter.

How many of us have someone we can have this kind of relationship with when it comes to our erotic pleasure? Many times the mention of the word 'masturbation' brings up jokes or nervous laughter. I'll never forget the time I spoke with a group of leathermen about masturbation. They reacted like a bunch of schoolgirls! Almost all of us do it, but no one talks or listens seriously about it. It's time to change that!

There are many areas we can explore together. I begin each coaching relationship with a questionnaire to help you clarify your wants and desires. You may be looking for ways to enhance your pleasure, looking to seek a positive body image, confront shame, integrate spirituality with your erotic pleasure, learn to enhance ejaculation, learn to experience pleasure without ejaculation, learn to separate orgasm from ejaculation. The possibilities are endless!

Each session and each client are different. Some of our sessions will involve talking and other forms of communication. Some may include breathing and movement. Some may include touch - either me touching you or you touching yourself. Same sessions will be easy for you; others may be a challenge. I will usually ask you to do some homework play assignments on your own too. These assignments can provide you with powerful insight and awareness.

One of my core beliefs is that you can't be erotic with other people until you learn how to be erotic with yourself. Many men find that masturbation coaching helps them in their relationships by being more comfortable with their own erotic needs and helps foster better communication among partners. In fact, Joseph Kramer, Ph.D., believes that one third of the men and women who see psychotherapists just need to learn to masturbate better. Rather than psychotherapy, they need sex coaching.

I welcome your questions on this powerful, pioneering work.

Special Offers!

Don't forget to take advantage of some specials I'm currently running:

Beat the fee increase! My new fees are $75 for 60 minutes and $100 for 90 minutes. But I'm honoring the old prices ($65 for 60 minutes, $90 for 90 minutes) through the end of April for clients who had a session with me anytime before March 8, 2006.
Introduce your friends to my work. Refer a friend and get 33% off one session for yourself. (See me for details how to take advantage of this offer.)
To the wonderful men I had the honor of working with in Phoenix: Treat yourself to a great massage if you're in San Francisco anytime this year. You get 50% off one session while you're here. Don't forget to take advantage of Felipe and Jesse's introductory offer for you in Phoenix.
Brand new clients can take advantage of my introductory special of two 60 minute massages for $99. This offer is non-transferable and both massages must be received within 30 days.